I think my answer would be entirely situational on this one. Is he actually a decent parent? Is the kid a monster? Am I expected to magically know how to deal with the child 'because I'm a woman'? Does he want more kids? Too many variables. If all of the questions were answered in the right ways then yes, I would date THAT parent. My aversion to having children has always been more about childbirth and the first few years, plus I'm very adaptable when I find something that makes me happy. There's still a 90% chance it'd be a no though.

Thank you.

She's a very interesting and well-rounded person, and she talks about her child very moderately- she only brings him up when it's relevant or when I've asked something. She actually described herself as CF before she became pregnant. She gets it.

I certainly wouldn't have expected this to happen, but hey, if you meet someone you like and who likes you back, I think sometimes things which may have been dealbreakers before aren't necessarily. I respect this is a hard-and-fast rule for other CFers but I'm willing to try.

I hope things work out, Pyramidsong! Good luck!

I am currently. It is very new, so I have no idea what to expect. She knows I am childfree and not maternal, and seems fine with it.

I also know and respect that her child is her priority. I am a person who needs a lot of time and space in a relationship so it may be ok in terms of how available she is- I am not a person who wants to see my partner every day or even every other day, and I don't like sleeping over (I'm an insomniac).

One of the first things I look for, if im going to look for a date, is if a man has children. If he does, it's an instant no, no matter how many other qualities he has that I may want.

I have had some iritated replies from men when I tell them im not interested because they have children. Oh well, your not the one for me anyways....I don't want to be a momma to your babies and I want to be first, not second, which id always be, if I chose a man that had kids already.

I saw a very attractive man walking in the park the other day and then his partner came out of the bathroom pushing a stroller, and he took it and started pushing it instead...yup instantly they became unappealing.

^I feel much the same as you, mystery guest. I'm really not sure why, but it just totally turns me off. Like, game over. Hmmm.

Even under the best possible conditions, I am simply not compatible with anyone who has or wants kids. Their personality is just opposed to mine in a fundimental way, for one thing. And parenthood is pretty high on my list of turn-offs. Really, I can't be attracted to a parent any more than a 100% heterosecu person can be attracted to someone of the same gender. They just become complete non-sexual entities to me, no matter where the kid is.

I think that one thing I have trouble with is the area of commonalities and similar personalities and interests. I couldn't date someone who is extremely religious, for instance. So all other things aside--let's assume her ex-husband more than provides for the children financially, and that multiple childbirths had no physical effects (sorry to be shallow, but hey, I felt I had to mention it,) and that the 3+ children are really likable and well-behaved and independent... I'm still not sure what I'd have in common with someone whose entire existence revolved around parenthood, when I've spent my entire life avoiding it.

If their kids were grown, maybe. Otherwise, no.