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Unread postPosted: Mon May 01, 2017 12:05 pm 
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Yep, I'd sexond going for a physical checkup, and a medical checkup, just to rule that stuff out. I'd also ask myself if there was ever a time I enjoyed sex, just to kind of benchmark where it may have changed.

I can also see the idea of "putting up with putting out" - we used to have another member here, a while ago, and she made the same comment Coco makes, about it being one of those jobs you do every so often. Lord knows both the wife and I do things we don't necessarily enjoy, just to keep the peace.

One other off-the-wall question: sex is but one aspect of a marriage, and everything sounds ok - what would your/his feeling be about seeking sex elsewhere?

I'm not advocating that, as it seems it could be a huge time bomb, just putting it out there.

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Unread postPosted: Tue May 02, 2017 6:43 am 
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Mine died the day I found out sex causes babies. So basically I never had it :mrgreen:

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Unread postPosted: Tue May 02, 2017 9:47 am 
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^^^ That, I get. When my wife had her stroke, they took her off BCPs immediately. She was also just starting menopause at the time.

Because neither of us like the other BC options, and surgery for either one of us seemed overkill considering our ages and the fact that the light was at the end of the tunnel, so to speak, due to my wife's sunsetting reproductive system, we were at a bit of a dilemma concerning physical relations.

Believe me, thinking of that one-in-a-bazillion chance of conceiving, considering that even if we weren't CF how it would be high-risk, how with the blood thinners and the other chronic condition my wife has made both pregnancy/birth or termination unpalatable, really put the damper on the romantic fires for quite a while.

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Unread postPosted: Tue May 02, 2017 11:04 am 
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I'm sorry about her condition. But yeah pregnancy/baybees the ultimate anaphrodisiacs.

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Unread postPosted: Sat May 20, 2017 1:37 pm 
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When I was 20s/30s, my libido was quite strong. After I turned 40 and started in with the antidepressants I should have been on all along, it completely disappeared. I'm almost 48 and honestly don't know that I will ever have sex again, and I don't know that I care.

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