I'd suggest that you get out of the house and try to meet people! There are so many things you can do: volunteer, join www.meetup.com, join a class or society - sitting on the computer all day thinking that will help with your problems will probably only make it worse. Grab life by the balls! No-one else will do it for you.

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Hi Hania1977,

It is very easy to give advice if you are not in the situation!!! let me tell you, may be next time when you give advice to people you think first "what kind of situations they are in"

- I live in a very very small (they call it town) village, population is very old, not much young people...
- I had joined a charity, which was helping everybody in the town and of course mainly old people. I thought I could get a society that can help me with finding a job....I was working in the cafe, all I got was people same age of my mum even my granny telling me about their grandkids's stories..
- I was going there everyday and being with old people (when you have a very young personally) that much when you were desperate for a proper job it effects you psychologically...
-I tried an other charity shop, but all the volunteers were old again and the customers...
-Young people are working during the day and only time I can meet them weekends and my husband is very anti-social and we go out only once a blue moon...
-I know meetup.com. I of course won't give you my postcode but on meetup when you tape it nearest events are not for me and the ones I can be interested in are 49 mil away from me and I don't have a car, coz can't afford a car coz don't have a job...
- I had joined not a class 3 classes but this time they were either very young or they were MOTHERS rushing to get the kids from the school... And class was only 6 people + tutarial...
- And because I have little money, I can not do much too...
- Also having all problems with my father husband...

Now tell me what to do, now give me some advice!!! Not easy, isn't it?
I have only one option to get away from this situation; give up on my dog and go and live with my parents after the age of 40!!! All I want is a full time job to build my life again and keep my dog...
All the best...

This post was about a year ago... I always wanted to answer to this post but didn't feel like because I was so upset with the one and only answer. Today I have felt like to answer.

Hi nowhere, hows it been..

Any new stuff of still stuck with the old chaps.

Take care.

Sorry to read you are having a tough time.

Just wondering, will your parents not let you bring your dog to live with them if you need to move in with them? Also, what kind of dog is it?

(((((hugs))))) to you and hopes that things will get better for you in the future.

I saw this article on Yahoo.com about working from home, it is probably US companies, but I'm wondering if the UK has similar companies there?

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/7-legitim ... 10442.html

Hi

EmmJ, I have got a big and quite difficult dog... And my parents live in very small flat... If it was a small dog wouldn't be a problem. Also, I want to fight not just take an easy way and go to my parents.. Fight for my life I used to have. I have checked the link thank you ever so much for that... I have tried to find something like that but it's not easy...

djsnightmare there is nothing new same old stuff...

Thanks guys,

Well honestly I can't think of any magic idea that can improve your situation instantly.
But you can try to shift to a bigger place, you'll have good chances of finding work there & a few more people to interact with in your age group.
But then again if one is not satisfied with the general direction in which their life is going then external things would help little.
I'd also suggest you to focus on your health, go for regular walks & build it up from there. Include jogging, skipping, cycling etc, anything that gets you outdoors & don't just do it for the sake of it. For example, aim for cycling a 100 km route by the end of 6 months.
This will keep your mind occupied & improve both your mental & physical condition.
I'd strongly suggest meditation as a means to improve one's general condition. And not just any form of meditation, go for Vipassana. Vipassana is not just sitting there, but its whole framework & the world view it tries to instill is what makes it different. It'll also help you to reflect on your current situation.

Take Care.

If your anti-social husband refuses to get out there with you then leave him home, he can stay in his shell but he doesn't get to trap you in it too.

As djsnightmare suggests the process is likely going to be a series of small steps, not a single one step panacea.

I was reading some of your old posts where you mentioned a stepdaughter. Does she live with you and your husband? Are you friends with her? If your husband won't get out in the world, will your stepdaughter?

When I was a kid our parents didn't pay much attention to my sister and me, but it was always a treat on those rare occasions that they did. Kind of a bad/good memory, but once when my dad had some drunk friends over, my mom came down to the park where my sister and I were playing with our friends and hung out with us for a couple of hours. I still remember that day and the relief my mom felt being outside and away from our drunk dad.

You mentioned that you had taken some classes. Are you working towards a degree in something? What about secretarial work? When I was going to grad school I worked as a secretary/administrative assistant for a temp agencies. Are there any temp agencies in your town? From your posts on this forum it is obvious you can type, so that's your first step done. There's programs online that will help you learn word processing and spreadsheets and simple database software.

Where I live there is a big demand for people to help older people with their housework, grocery shopping, etc. When my mom was alive I had to hire a person to take her to the doctor when I couldn't (we lived in different states). You have to listen to all their crazy stories, of course, but most people have crazy stories. Childfree people will be a minority wherever you go, so you have to learn to try to be interested in the stories that people with kids want to tell you. I try to think of them like the crazy stories I watch on EastEnders or Corrie.

Another idea, dog walking or cat sitting. You have a dog so you obviously know how to walk a dog. In my town, people charge $20 an hour to check on your dog and/or walk it or feed it. That would definitely get you out of the house. You could probably advertise your dog walking services in your local newspaper.

Hang in there and I hope you find a good job soon and a better living situation. Hugs and smiles to you!