Hi all--brand new to this forum, and SO happy to learn that we're not abnormal or damaged or broken Ah, the stupid procreation pressures society thrusts upon you... My husband and I are in our 30's and (extremely) happily childfree. We're having an increasingly hard time finding likeminded folks in Las Vegas. All of our friends either already have kids, or are trying very hard to get pregnant. As such, "kid stuff" has started overwhelmingly dominating most of our interactions with these people. We're happy for them, of course, but it's getting increasingly harder to relate to them or find other things to talk about. We went to a friend's house the other week for a get-together, and there were 6, count them SIX, newborns (all under the age of 2 months) present, in addition to a 2-year-old who made it his mission in life to break whatever he could get his hands on, including my cellphone... Long story short... we desperately need to add some new childfree friends to our lives. Is there *anybody* in Las Vegas or surrounding areas (Henderson, Pahrump, Boulder City...?) who would be interested in doing a meetup, or at least chatting more online? We need some sanity! Thanks! Heather & Jeff
Joined: Sun Feb 10, 2013 2:49 pm Posts: 8 Location: Ascot - London - UK
Hi Heather and Jeff,
Sadly we are in England as I would love to say I was in Vegas and meet up but we wont be back there until September at least to celebrate our 21st wedding anniversary (I was a child bride )
We are childfree and I'm in my early 40's and only ever, if I think about it, express regret because people are *sorry* for me and expect me to!
But I'm not the one being stolen from, having to read dreadful report cards or tearing my hair out over inappropriate mates, running a constant taxi service and paying through the nose for things I dont agree with.............. yet they pity me HAHA the laugh is on them; I'm spending my Sunday enjoying my peaceful home and my husband's company with not a thing to trouble us until Monday morning when as I'm not raising brats I will have to do a few chores whilst Mr S goes to work and then getting ready for my part time job as our money isn't being drained ! win win
Hi Siouxsie! I guess we aren't old enough looking that we've reached the "pity" part of being childfree. People still presume we're just waiting until we're more prepared, or some such nonsense. "Yes, take your time, enjoy your marriage..." Umm, yes, that's exactly what we plan on doing, except there is no end date! So many of my friends' children have totally derailed their own personal plans, it's sad. My one friend was just 14 when she had her son, the victim of a married child predator three times her age... she had to drop out of school. She eventually went back and completed her degree, but things could never be the same, of course. Another friend just recently had a baby to keep her (terrible) marriage together. Yet another friend is trying desperately to conceive to the point where it's dominating her every thought... so much stress and anxiety when it comes to children! Whatever biological need to procreate that so many people seem to have just doesn't exist for my husband or me, and we're both so thankful that it doesn't. Not to mention being able to spend our money however we like, without the constant fear of not having enough saved up for Junior's college tuition! We would love to visit England sometime. Do let us know when you're in town, we'd be glad to meet up for a cocktail!
Just once a couple of years ago. It was an 8-hour drive. Perhaps it would be nice to create meetup groups in both Vegas and Reno. Anyone else here in the Reno area? I am also planning on creating some kind of childfree Facebook page. We'll probably get a lot of hate mail and trolling, but I think it'd be nice to create some type of global community where you can feel safe to vent about sanctimommies and your idiot brother's bratty twins without feeling judged. There are a couple of other related pages on Facebook, but most haven't been updated in many months, if not years. I'll post the link up when I get it running, if anyone's interested
Joined: Sun Jan 27, 2013 11:05 pm Posts: 37 Location: Sparks, NV
That sounds like a great idea! I've even looked on Meet Up to see if there were CF groups, but none in this area. My husband (both of us are 29) have had issues meeting people on the same page as ourselves (CF being only a part of that criteria--and we do have some friends with kids, but they're just not at the same place in their lives as us, etc). Luckily most people I work with and associate with are accepting, and even in some cases very encouraging, of the fact that we want to be CF. It would be nice, though, to have a friend base with similar interests to do things with.
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