Pretty much. In my experience, 99% of guys would rather be run over by a stampede of water buffalo than tell a girl to her face that he's not into her.

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"I don't hate kids."
"You don't want to have them."
"I like sports cars, but I don't want to push a Ferrari through my vagina."

Got a message from Persistent Guy last night that he has to meet with clients after 5 tonight and will probably need to switch our date to tomorrow. I thought "bummer" and then I went "Wait! Clients means job!" lol. He just graduated with an accounting degree and moved back here so I thought chances were he didn't have a job yet, but at least had potential for a good one. He's doing CPA stuff and I asked him how he managed to get a job so fast and he said "Connections". Wow... So, car - check! job - check! calls it a date - check! And he has intiative obviously since he hasn't given up on me over all these years even though we never even spoke the 6 years I was with my ex. Definitely promising. Oh and I had to ask him his name when we first started talking cuz I never remember that stuff and he didn't ask mine so I asked if he remembered and said I'd be super impressed. He got it right - and spelled it right too. You know even if this doesn't lead anywhere, I definitely need to stick with these level of standards. It feels good to look forward to something with someone who doesn't have any red flags.

That does all sound good Washed! Hopefully it leads to something, but if not, I don't think those are unreasonable standards at all.

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We found your keys, so if you want 'em, you better come and get 'em.
WWWYKI
There's no sense crying over every mistake. You just keep on trying till you run out of cake.

Wow, washed! You must have really impressed him if he's still jonesing for you after 6yrs LOL. I hope you have fun tonight!

Well, I finally got a text yesterday from Single Dad asking if I was still alive since he hadn't heard from me. I told him that I hadn't heard from him either, and that I was wondering if he'd driven his work truck into the lake. So I text him later, at about 8 asking how he is and what he's up to for the evening. Its Sat morning and he still hasn't answered.
Don't complain that you haven't heard from me, then not answer me when you do! ARRGGGHHHH!! I fucking hate this shit!!!!

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~Calm like a bomb~
"Don't wanna take it slow, I wanna take you home
And watch the world explode from underneath your glow
I wanna watch the way you creep across my skull."

LOL no kidding TLSP! He was joking around saying try not to take advantage of him since I had been trying to get in his pants for over 6 years. I'm like "Have we entered bizarro world?" lol. I certainly hope that's not all this is about! I told him I'm not that kinda girl. That would be some major commitment to trying to get laid especially since I'm not doing the casual hookup thing. Guess I'll just have to see!

So I emailed the Non-Texter about what a turnoff it is when a guy acts super interested (like he did) and then vanishes, and he replied just a few minutes later. I had expected him to get all defensive and pissy, but no...he actually apologized and said he didn't mean anything by it OMG I'm so glad I'm getting more assertive about my expectations, wants/needs, etc. Perhaps he's worth another shot.
I'm not sure I'm getting anywhere with the other guy. He says he likes me and wants to meet, but hasn't actually set up a date/time. It seems his social calendar is too full for dating, and if he can't make time for me, I'll stop making time for him and always being available. I'm almost starting to lose interest a little bit...which is a shame because he's cute, funny, smart, and really interesting.
P.S. Now I'm going to go distract myself with some earring designs. Dating is just too damn stressful sometimes

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"Children are the future...today belongs to ME!" Lindsay Naegle ('The Simpsons')

Surely there are more normal dependable guys out there than this thread appears to highlight!?!?

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My kitty is a super hero

Drats.. foiled again! lol. So Persistent Guy was helping a friend move all day in 100 degree weather and it went later than expected and now he's not feeling well. He offered to get together tomorrow and I told him I'm understanding but it's not going to make me happy to keep getting blown off and he has one strike left! He said it's a deal and he was going right to bed and thank you so much. So once again.. we'll see..

I truly wish guys would just say that they no longer want to contact us rather than leave us hanging and just falling off of the face of the earth. It's just a big mindfuck, imo.

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80% of success is showing up - Woody Allen

I'm just glad I set a boundary that he can't keep doing this and expect I'll just take it. It'll be interesting to see if he follows through.