I really hope you do that. You should also make sure to send them a Christmas card from where you go.

Even better than a card - a newsletter! Be sure to put a pic of those "damn cats" of yours on the front cover (dressed as Santa and his elves, off course) .

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Start out perfect and don’t change a thing. Always accentuate your best features by pointing at them. And conceal your flaws by sucker punching anyone who has the audacity to mention them. - Miss Piggy

My bro and SIL has 2 kids right now and wants several more. If he ever asked me and my husband to take his kids, whom I've never met, I tell him hell no as well. Why should I be stuck wih kids just cuz he didn't know how to use a condom?

Go hang out on the beach in Maui for a week or two. Be sure and take lots of pictures so you can make their broke asses jealous.

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I am still curious about this, any new emails or phone calls?

Thanks, Katrink!
I didn't give my new number to family, and am not reading their emails. So far, no real news other "nice-brother" said they "missed" my fiancé and I at the fourth of July BBQ. Sure they did. They had to provide and prepare all their own food and drinks, and watch their own kids, had nobody to bingo and had to clean up all the mess on their own. They don't get why I'm so upset. He is hoping that we can all "forgive one another" for the "sake of family unity."

Eh. Not interested. I'm enjoying the peace, quiet and simplicity of life without their constant drama way too much.

You should definitely take a vacation with the money you aren't going to spend on your family's Xmas gifts. I disagree with those who say to send your family a postcard or newsletter. All that will do is remind them that you exist. You want them to not think about you at all.

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WWTLD --- What Would Tyrion Lannister Do?

News flash! Being "Disowned" by my mother, lol. Met this AM with my nice brother for breakfast and he let me know that she is "removing" me from her will and plans never to speak to me again and doesn't want me at her funeral, etc. If I truly loved my family, I would have shown it by being willing to sacrifice my relationship, career and freedom for my sister's 5 unplanned children. I am selfish and immature, and my other siblings concur. They are deeply hurt and disappointed in me. They expected better.

My nice brother is really upset and wants everyone to reconcile, and was confused about why I'm "acting this way." "It's not like you, SW." So, I told him how much everyone borrowed, and the conditions of guardianship that sissy and mom wanted to impose, and that being shunned is a relief, and probably the best thing for me.

He wants to make things right, and doesnt want me excluded from family functions, etc. He is upset that nobody offered me help at all when we were displaced, especially after I helped them all, over and over again. I told him that's pretty typical, and that's why I'm fine with being shunned and disowned, and I hope he can relax and not worry about it. Life is imperfect. It's just how things go sometimes. He's upset that I don't even want to try to make amends, but I told him that considering the past, I don't feel like its in my best interest to do so, and I told him that I hope he will respect my wishes for him to stop getting involved.

It sucks when family can't act like normal decent people, but you're right that in this case being cut off(also, at your mom pulling the "you can't fire me, because I quit" routine) is probably the best thing for you.

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We found your keys, so if you want 'em, you better come and get 'em.
WWWYKI
There's no sense crying over every mistake. You just keep on trying till you run out of cake.

Yeah, this feels right. Honestly, I doubt I was in her will to begin with, and if I was, it probably was just legally stipulating that I was to receive nothing.