What a scumbag. Besides, in the 99.999999% likelihood that he was drunk at the time of the incident, how does he have any idea what actually happened?

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There's no sense crying over every mistake. You just keep on trying till you run out of cake.

Don't even think about responding to that crap!

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You know me, always like to savor that last shot before popping the heatsink.

If he wasn't copping a feel, what was he doing? Evaluating the effectiveness of your body lotion? Smoothing a wrinkle in your garments? Swatting away a mote of dust lest it besmirch your loveliness?

Please ignore this twit of a man. He's offended? Good. Dirty drunken fucker knows how it feels now.

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I'd ask him what he meant by grabbing your thigh, then?

I was wondering . . . what could cause this slimebag to apologize to you, the wonton, non-believing, piece of trash that their brother brought home?

Obvious answer: The rest of the family made him do it.

Next question: Why did they do it?

Answer: Because they KNOW that he is a sexual harassment/molestation change just waiting to happen and want to make sure that when (not if) that happens, there isn't another potential victim out there saying "It isn't an isolated incident, it happened to me long ago"

I agree with those who applaud your decition to cut them o0ut of your life, I hope your hubby does as well (but would understand if he didn't as he agrees that you don't have to deal with them anymore)

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WWTLD --- What Would Tyrion Lannister Do?

If I had a wife and a relative did that and knowing previous examples of behaviour from him and the general attitude of the family, I would want nothing to do with them ever again, even if they are 'my family'. If I were your OH, I'd be making it quite clear to Smother as head of the clan that it's "sayonara" time - you two are the only family you need.

Of course, I'd probably also have taken his sorry arse outside and given him a damn good thrashing as we say here in the UK. And I'm generally not a violent person.

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It's not a Dyson. It's a velociraptor.

He did something wrong and he's offended?! GTFO!

Don't respond to any emails from him and the family but do keep the emails just in case cause guys like this douche will keep repeating their behavior. It might escalate to stalking and rape.

DH is a good man and I'm glad he has your back.

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What a jerk! Glad you won't be around him anymore.

Oh yeah, it's not surprising that he's trying to cover his ass like a Republican politician here, because (probably no surprise) he's active in his local Republican party chapter. Needless to say he's REALLY into his entitled-white-guy politics, and has money and spare time, so from time to time his local cronies start talking about putting him forth as a candidate for this or that elected position in Teeny-Weent county. So far it's come to nothing, but if he ever did put himself forth as a candidate for something, the in-laws really don't want his sister-in-law talking to the press about how he's an incorrigible bully, and how she refuses to have anything to do with him because he groped her.

All I can say is that if he runs for office, he'd better hope that I don't receive any witness subpeonas or lucrative offers from any tabloids, because I'd spill the beans on him in one hot second and enjoy doing it.



Yes, this is why he won’t get ANY further access to me, ever. I said in my letter to (S)MIL and the two SILs that I won’t attend any event that he attends and have no intention of seeing him again. I’m sure as hell not going to take any more of his verbal abuse or cruel pranks, and I’m not waiting for his grabby hands to end up on my breast or ass or some such.

I don’t doubt for one second that he’d escalate the groping if he got the chance, and not just because that was probably the most action he’d gotten all year. It’s because telling him to STOP doing this or that always means that he’ll just make a point of doing it again and again and again – nobody can tell HIM what to do!

Mr. Rose and I were in Teeny-Weent, MN for about 48 hours, and he still managed to get his hands on me twice – he “greeted” me by running up and grabbing me around the waist from behind, then scooted off without even speaking to me. No shit, this guy hadn’t seen or spoken to me in over a year, and that’s the hello I received, and he did it right in front of my husband.

Luckily though, he lives over a thousand miles away in Texas, and is always on about how much he hates hates hates California in general and “Hell-Lay” in particular, so he’ll never come out here, and I flatly refuse to go to see him.

Hard to believe that I don’t have to go on the annual Guilt & Abuse Pilgrimage (in a location of (S)MIL’s choosing) every year! Ah, sweet FREEEEEE-DOM!!!

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Because my baby is a blue-eyed hunka burnin' Irish man-love, and he's all the baby I'll ever need.
Because it's my life, and I don't want to.

There are still some events that you are willing to attend, so long as he's not there, yes?

I'd be wary of people like the (S)MIL lying to you about his presence in an attempt to get you in the same area so you can "reconcile". Is is possible to have yous DH scout out any events before you go in, or do you know other members in that family who you trust to tell you the truth?

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