Okay, so, I've been very cautious about babies. I, honest and truly, decided to wait to have sinful encounters (I live in the Bible Belt) until after I had a tubal ligation. I got the surgery a few months ago, and am so glad I did.
However, there is still that terrifying little thought about the potential for failure. I'm not looking for advice (I can already hear the chorus of "just use [insert contraception of choice]), just a little mindless reassurance. And, I'm curious about how many of you also worry about this, however unlikely it may be.
And, what would you do in the event of an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy?
I'm also waiting for my tubal to have intercourse. (The rest of it is free game, as far as I'm concerned.) My 2nd method of choice is fertility awareness- not the rhythm method. And of coarse, condoms. If you're extra paranoid, you can use condoms, and never have sex during your fertile window. That would pretty much eliminate all threat as Tubal+condoms+fertility awareness= a pretty potent combination.
If I had an unwanted pregnancy, however, I would have an abortion, no question about that. I'd be at the clinic as soon as I found out.
_________________ "There is nothing impossible to him who will try." - Alexander the Great
^Pretty much this, seeing as how as I have no sex drive or partner to have sex with, I don't need to worry about it now....but after college, I want either Essure or a bilateral salpingectomy, as long as I can have spinal anesthesia as opposed to general.
_________________ "My, my, what beautiful blossoms we have this year. But look...this one's late. And I'll bet that when it blooms, it will be the most beautiful of all." - Mulan
I track my cycle now (thanks to suggestions from here) and avoid sex during my fertile window, use condoms and my OH pulls out long before he finishes and sometimes he doesn't. He's getting a vasectomy in a few weeks and he's excited and nervous and still wants to use condoms after we get the all clear, he's just as paranoid as me.
Even with all of this I still want my tubes gon, cut cauterized, tied, removed it doesn't matter. I think until I hit menopause I'll probably have worries and of something were to happen I'd abort or just take a bunch of herbs to cause a miscarriage.
^I'm also interested in a bilateral saling tony and I DON'T want to e put under general, I'd be much happier with local.
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I was on the pill until my 30s, then relied on condoms for sporadic flings until I met now-DH, who was already slash-and-burn snipped. I was always totally relaxed about the idea of an abortion if the worst happened, since to me it's nothing more than a medical procedure.
Then again, I never had even the slightest preg scare, not even a late period, and suspect I may have been sterile anyway after a major pelvic inflammation from ruptured ovarian cysts when I was about 19.
I had a TL in 2011. Before that I was on the pill AND used condoms. Now we still use condoms as back up. Yes, overkill in some peoples' opinions I'm sure, but I would not have an abortion so I need to be 110% sure no babies are made! Before I had the TL, I asked my husband if it would be ok with him if we still used condoms even after the TL and he said yes. I would be ok with no condoms if he were to get a vasectomy but he is on blood thinners for a different issue and even a tiny surgery like that is a big deal. So maybe in the future but for now this is how we deal with the uncertainty.
Jeez, I thought I was irrational in my fear after the TL. It sure makes me feel a little more normal to read this thread.
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