Hi everyone! I've been lurking for a couple of months and wanted to step out of the shadows. Recently I've gotten off the fence in terms of 'to have or not to have kids', but still find myself reading and thinking a lot about this choice. I guess I want to be fully mentally and emotionally ready for a deliberate rejection of motherhood (for me). I'm 32 and went through a huge baby-craving a few years back. My husband and I started thinking seriously about having kids and what great parents we'd make and then my clock stopped ticking quite so loudly.
My younger sister is a brand-new mama and seeing her with her baby boy, and spending a lot of time with my nephew, has brought this issue up from the back burner. Babies are enchanting to me, really, and I'm happy they live nearby.
Anyway, I look forward to getting on here from time to time and exchanging views with what looks to be a friendly, lively community!
I had no idea this place existed until last night! So glad I found it. The hook? The Truu Confessions thread. Awakened my NONatal sensibilities. (not that they were lying dormant or anything, but to find like-minded folk? Yes!) That thread is a work of art. Someone should perform it live! Take it on the road. Amazing.
Joined: Wed Jun 27, 2012 3:22 am Posts: 141 Location: Sydney, Australia
Newbie here. I am married to my wonderful Husband of 5 years, been together a total of 11 years. We are both CFBC and want to remain that way for the rest of our lives. We live in Sydney Australia and are quite Young, 26 & 29 and very career orientated.
I'm another one of those people who have been around for a bit but finally de-lurking!
My husband and I are 28 and 30, both career-minded (he's a Microsofter, I'm an astrologer) but I have developed chronic health problems and so am trying to adapt to the "housewife" thing for a while. I was an early articulator and the other half got on board once he realized the whole lifescript thing was actually optional... together 4 years, married for 2. We're already an old married couple though, in a good way.
My younger sister has a brilliant almost-2 daughter, so I get to be the cool auntie periodically. Otherwise birdwatching, writing, continuing ed I can do at home, and some volunteering keeps me rolling along. Looking forward to finding some CF people for restaurant jaunts and dinner parties (I'm a former chef w/ a culinary degree) when I can get around more too.
Love that these boards are well-rounded; looking forward to getting to know people better
Joined: Fri Jun 29, 2012 12:18 am Posts: 131 Location: Mountain View, CA
Another former lurker. The community here looks great! I'm 39 and my husband's 40. He'd like to have kids, but I realized it wasn't for me. Fortunately, he sees all the benefits of being childfree and has embraced my decision. We look forward to a life of taking his career as far as possible without any anchors, traveling whenever we want to, and being silly for the rest of our lives.
Joined: Mon Jun 11, 2012 2:25 am Posts: 1 Location: Seattle
Howdy, all! I've been lurking for a rather short time, and I can see that this is a great place to hang my hat!
I am a 34 year-old woman, and I knew I didn't want kids from a very young age. I grew up in a traditional Southern family and I never wanted to take on the traditional Mommy/Wife roles that were expected of me. I did eventually marry a wonderful man that shared my views, but he unexpectedly passed away when I was 31. We were married for about 4 years, but together for over 8 years. It has been a rough road, but I am healing, and...I'm dating again. He is incredible - he is an apology from the universe because it took my hubs too early (and too brutally). We actually met on Match, and he said I was only one of three women that popped up in his search that stated that I definitely didn't want children. He said if he met the right partner and she absolutely wanted children, he would have considered it. I looked at him like he had three heads! We still laugh about my horrified reaction.
I really enjoy the "bingo" threads and I plan to use some of 'em when the chance presents itself. I must admit, the one I always hated the most was, (said with a self-satisfied smirk on their face) "You will change your mind." Grrrrrrrr! I finally had a tubal (cauterization) done when I was 32 and I just couldn't wait for that bingo to rear its ugly face again. Oddly enough, I was having a simple conversation with a man at the mechanic while we waited for our vehicles, and that bingo popped out of his mouth, smirk and all. It was a personal triumph to wipe that "knowing" smile off his face with, "Fat chance! I'm fixed!"
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